The definition of failure varies greatly from person to person it’s a very personal thing, and each person defines their own idea of success and failure.Whatever that definition is for you when you lose, you’ll need time and space to put it into proper perspective.
While there may be only a limited number of ways in which to succeed, there are many ways to fail. “Having a bad idea, not executing well, not having the courage to change or adapt, not building the right team, or making bad decisions are among so many possible ways in which we can fail, another way of failing is not even trying.
There are even more typical, tangible ways that we fail that are defined by the world around us. The consequences of failure in a company are big. You can lose your [livelihood], for one. But a lot of things in life gets harder they might even seem insurmountable, especially if you’ve already experienced a setback or failure. Many people become scared of failure and not only do not want to embrace it but often stop putting themselves out there. Since we all have a desire to feel good about ourselves, when we fail at something and don’t feel good about ourselves, we become less confident and may fail to try new things or take bigger risks.
The bottom line that failure builds is that one failure can lead to more failures. That is unless you learn to use each failure to your advantage, to let it fuel your future success.
The traditional thinking is, the more time and money that was invested to start a company, the longer it can take an entrepreneur to assess what went wrong and process the failure. And while that’s been true in many cases and many entrepreneurs take a much-needed break to refuel before getting back in the game, others are able to rebound more quickly. At some point, however, you need to put your failure aside and get back in the game.
Being able to admit you failed at something is a liberating experience. Yet one of the hardest thing to say “I failed.” But by admitting it, you’ve literally set yourself free of the weight of it.
The real reason for admitting failure is so hard? It makes us feel vulnerable. Saying “I failed” means dropping your guard and opening yourself up to criticism or self-deprecation. It also may mean giving up on a goal or a dream because you feel like you’ve let down your family, friends, colleagues, or fans.
If admitting failure makes you uncomfortable, actually embracing it can be nearly impossible. We learn from an early age that failure is bad, so why would we want to embrace it?
First, it’s important to understand that you can embrace failure in a negative or a positive way. There are many people who see embracing failure as negative or a sign of weakness. They’ll try to keep their failures hidden like the man behind the curtain in The Wizard of Oz. They believe that by embracing failure, they’re giving up, giving in, or setting up much lower standards.
Defining yourself as a failure is another negative way of embracing it. It’s an excuse to say, “I can’t do it,” “I give up,” or “Why bother? I won’t succeed anyway.” What people who see failure this way don’t recognize is that sometimes you need to go back to the base of the mountain to start climbing again.
Embracing failure positively requires a leap of faith, but once you jump over the hurdle, you’ll understand that fearing failure only holds you back from realizing your full potential.
Reasons to accept failure:
When you fail, it could be a sign that you shouldn’t have been going in this direction, to begin with. This, of course, is if you recognize clearly that your goal or vision for what you wanted isn’t exactly what means the most to you.
Failing should hurt, but you should only proceed in a different direction if you don’t feel it within your core to go forward in your initial direction despite that failure. This means that your vision of success has to be compelling enough to drive you forward, even if it is hard.
When you fall and then get right back up towards that same direction and goal you send yourself a message that you still want it even though you are going through pain and devastation to get there.
This strengthens your investment and your will to win. If you are willing to fight for your goal even when you have been put through pain and struggle then you tell yourself and the world that this is a worthwhile goal.
Fighting on despite disappointment shows you that you still believe in yourself. It shows that despite irrefutable evidence that you can’t do it, you will still strive to win. This action itself is communication to yourself that you will win.
When you have the opportunity to affirm the belief you have in yourself despite all the negative feedback, the judgment of others, and what happens to you in life, this can allow you to become more resolute in your goals. This is really a gift of failure.
Failure is just a sign for you to understand that you need to grow more. What some people have a difficult time in comprehending about failure is simply that it will mold and shape you into a person that can reach your destiny.
When you are sharpened by the challenges thrown your way and the despair of failure, this allows you to grow and become a better person. Look beyond the immediate pain and realize that it is only through the failures we face that turn us into the person that we really want to become.
Through our biggest obstacles, the most incredible stories can be told. These are stories of you overcoming your biggest challenges and becoming the person you wanted to become. These are stories that shape your life and inspire others.
It would be sad to look on one’s life after having lived it only to realize that they had never failed. This likely would be a life of comfort and mediocrity. Without having failed then one wouldn’t have many great stories to tell or any noteworthy accomplishments to talk about.
What you do in the face of failure will inspire and motivate others. How you show up when faced with the ultimate defeat will impact the lives around you. It can help them to achieve their biggest goals and this can drive you even further.
Your fans and your critics are watching to see what you will do in the face of failure. It’s not important to pay attention to your critics or even that you will fail because you will, but it is more important how you will show up in the face of such disappointment. When you take failure for what it is and strive on further towards your goal, others will notice and you could very well be the cause that inspires someone else to greatness.
Looking at failure in a different way can be one of the most profound changes that you will make in your life. The moment of failure sucks, but what you can gain from it might just transform your life.
Know that you are interested in the long-term rewards of becoming the person you want to become. Find joy in failing because the knowledge of such a thing means that you are even closer to your goals. Anything worth doing or any goals worth having are worthy of failing at. If you can’t fail at something then likely it is an uninspiring and fruitless path. What I have found is that the fails lead to your greatest successes.
Fail more today so that you can succeed tomorrow. Look back at your life and notice how just after you have failed, then came your biggest accomplishments.